Serendipity: The occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way; “a fortunate stroke of serendipity”
As a teen, I thought a lot about my future, but not about my career. I knew the career would happen but I really didn’t have a plan for how it would happen. My thoughts were about my life and family. knew I wanted to be married and have children and be a good husband and father. I didn’t date much, didn’t have any long-term girlfriends. Truth was that I put so much pressure on myself that I’d get sick to my stomach on every date. Then I met Kristin at work in December 1990 when I was 23. And no sick stomach. I wasn’t looking for a girlfriend where I worked. But, serendipity.
I met Kristin by chance when I wasn’t looking for a girlfriend and everything just worked; almost 32 years later and it still works. Kristin has made me so much better than I ever could’ve been on my own.
Well, we got married, had a few children before 30 and I started stressing about career, money, everything. I was in such a rush to be so much bigger and better than I was, because my family was depending on me. I wanted a VP role, I wanted an office, I wanted to be at the top of an org chart. There were opportunities that were perfect for me and I finished second or third in the selection process and I was crushed, certain nothing better would come along. Then I was introduced to a great person, Adam Berman, by happenstance.
About a year after meeting Adam he said “Ron, I heard of a great opportunity that may be perfect for you, are you interested in learning about it?”. That turned into the most important and impactful stretch in my career. I lost out on many other great roles, but I got the role that was right for me. Again, serendipity.
Looking back on 34 years in the corporate world, the lessons I’ve learned that can be somewhat serendipitous are these:
- Meet people, be authentic, treat them well; you never know how even the simplest of relationships can be life-changing.
- Be in a hurry but don’t rush; allow things to happen at their natural time and place.
- Focus on learning, achieving, improving and doing so with ethics and integrity; do these things and opportunities will come your way