It was early March and career had me away from my home in Pennsylvania for about 12 weeks. I took a trip and spent a few days at home. So, what did I do during that time? Not much, really:
- Finalized tax filing for the year
- Updated my will, living will and power of attorney
- Cleaned the house and washed the cars
- Wrestled (many times) with my son’s 80 lb. German Shepherd “pup”
- Had my Mom over for dinner.
- Got a haircut
- Entertained friends whom I hadn’t see in a while
- Re-stocked the fridge and food supply
- Cleaned the yard following the typical Pennsylvania winter mess
- Scheduled deck cleaning, tree pruning and annual lawn service
- Had a few bourbons and some good beer
So why was I spinning furiously to get things done? The truth is, I really don’t know but it could be a mix of guilt and my natural state. Guilt due to being away for so long. Natural state because, well, I have to be constantly busy.
And the other truth is that I was so happy to be so busy and do all of these things. This was my time to make up for lost time. I took for granted how much I enjoy household tasks and and I took for granted my role outside of work while being away for career. Doing all of these things made me happy, affirmed my role as a husband and father and further crystallized that I work to live, not the other way around.
While you’re spending 50, 60 or more hours per week building a career and a future for your life and family, don’t take for granted just how much you’re needed at home, and how good it feels to be productive outside of work, and for very good and rewarding reasons.